Goodbye My Twenties: The Truth About Weddings

I feel like I’ve reached a point in my life where every decision feels like a big deal (which is making it even harder to stick to my new year’s resolution of being less indecisive). Should I grab that pack of cookies for a snack at work? I don’t know, they’re a little pricey…I could really use a new pair of boots, but I don’t really like any of these…this one’s OK, but I play next? I have several I need to finish, but there’s this really interesting one I haven’t started yet…what chores should I do first? Laundry, because its easier? Bathroom cleaning, to get it over with?

Indecisiveness is a bug that just keeps on biting. I even question my breakfast choices lately. Which is faster? What’s less dirty? I find that the indecisiveness is worse on work days and reaches its peak when I get overwhelmed with bills and/or wedding plans. Perhaps that is why I feel this way, especially now – the wedding is just over 2 months away! Are you kidding me?! How is that even possible? Yes, we’ve done a lot already, but there’s always more…the cake, the dress alterations, gifts, figuring out delivery and pick up times…ugh.

When people talk about weddings, they don’t talk about the planning. They don’t talk about how stressful it is, how much there is to coordinate, how much you’ll freak out as you get closer to the date. They talk about shopping for a dress, and the beautiful venues available, and how great the food was at that last wedding, and the great pictures you’re going to get, and what’s your song going to be, etc. Well, if you don’t get the full scoop, you’re in for a hard reality check. Its a lot of money and a lot of work. I spent the last half of my life dreaming about my wedding and now I just want to get it over with. I had fun shopping for my dress and deciding on the decorations, but other than my Bachlorette party, the fun parts are done.

This is a subject they should teach in school – wedding planning and budgeting. This would have been significantly more helpful to me than Algebra. But let’s not end on a negative note, that’s a downer. Rather, let’s remember that, even at the height of your pre-wedding anxiety, you’re doing this because your love for this person is so great that it needs to be celebrated. When you think about it, that’s pretty awesome.

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